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Bride sends out tiered wedding menu that gives guests food options based on cash gift amount

Weddings are always joyful.

This day is memorable not just for the couple and their families but the guests as well.

People always feel honored to be invited to a wedding because they are important to the couple and their union.

But what if you’re sent a weird RSVP invitation that would make you say “no, thanks”?

Perhaps this one Reddit post about a wedding imposing a “tiered wedding menu” based on your cash gift would be one reason. But let’s get to more details later.

Each culture has different wedding traditions.

From the Polterabend dish-breaking tradition in Germany, guests are asked to bring porcelain dishware for the couple and break them; to the Swedish kissing party wherein female guests can kiss the groom if the bride leaves their table and vice versa.

Another wedding tradition is giving a gift.

It’s customary to give gifts to the newlyweds. However, it differs from different countries.

In the United States, couples often create a gift registry so guests can (or at least know) what to buy. Other countries give out money for practicality’s sake.

So, what has this Reddit post to do about all these?

A Redditor posted this:

Yep, you see it right! The couple is asking their guests how much, or in this case, what gift level, is their cash gift to give you the corresponding menu based on that value.

It is posted in the subreddit called Let’s Shame Those Weddings (r/weddingshaming).

Here, Redditors can post tacky, scandalous, or shame-worthy wedding demands and so much more. People also air out their concerns on what they think is wrong in the wedding they’re about to go to or went to.

People were disgusted with this “tiered” wedding menu.

However, this may be familiar in a Chinese wedding.

At Chinese weddings, those who like to give cash as gifts will place it in a red envelope called hong bao.

The value inside the envelope should be around the same value as the food served to them. You can either call the restaurant and ask how much the dinner per head is, or you can just judge its value after the dinner.

As long as the amount doesn’t have the numbers 4 & 7 (because these are unlucky numbers for the Chinese), you’re good.

But this tiered wedding menu is the other way around.

I don’t know what’s worse, the teired food based on gift… or that vegetarians/kosher diet people are only at the $1k+ level.

“Vegetarian or Jewish Friends? FU pay us!”

The dinner served to you is based on the amount of your gift. Most Redditors think it’s just tacky. Others also pointed out how the vegan/vegetarian option is only for the highest tier.

One Redditor did his digging and found the original post saying that this was a “joke.”

The source of this image seems to be a 2013 blog post ( link here), the authors says this:

So here’s something funny. Here’s a for-real legit RSVP card I saw last year (sorry for the bad resolution, I took the pic on my cell): After this started getting gossiped about (and posted on FB), the couple who sent this out with their wedding invitations said it was a joke, and they were surprised no one “got” the joke. Hahaha. Joke.

I think, from some people it should be clear that it’s a joke, but if it’s from a distant cousin you haven’t seen in a while, the doubt could creep.

So if you want to do such a joke you better have the “kidding, here’s the real meal choices” on the back, and you better think twice about who you’ll send it to, know your crowd type of deal.

Like, I could joke that the vegetarian option for my vegetarian friends is “whatever doesn’t put up a fuss from the crisper drawer” but I’d never joke about meal option for my vegan SIL (who I know has other dietary restrictions and I wouldn’t want her to think for a second that we don’t take seriously) – so some people might get “joke” invite add-on but not everyone.

If it is, it isn’t a good one at all, and no one would be sharing a good laugh after reading it. Besides, it’s still somehow telling you that there’s no required amount to give, “but hey!

We’ll accept $2,500 if you want to.” The tiers also tell how much the couple sees your gift’s value, either in cash or a wrapped one.

What do you guys think about this? Would you attend the wedding if you receive something like this?

Please SHARE this with your friends and family and get their opinion about it, too.

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